Astarion Romance

Astarion Romance is the non-binary ship between Astarion and Tav from the Baldur's Gate fandom.

First Meeting
The player character can first meet Astarion after the prologue, near some Nautiloid ship wreckage. Here he’ll be calling for help, calling the player over. When conversation is initiated, Astarion will say he spotted an Intellect Devourer in the bushes and ask Tav to kill it. 'Easily. Stand Back' = Tav moves forward towards the bushes. Astarion guides them saying, “There, can you see it?”. Tav keeps searching, and out from the bushes comes a boar running away. If Tav passes a perception check, they quickly notice the flash of a dagger. Turning around, they see Astarion branding a knife. He demands information, as he saw Tav roaming free on the ship, and assumes that they must be working with the mind flayers. When he’s about to question further, his tadpole reacts to Tav’s tadpole.

As Tav begins to walk away, Astarion sneaks up behind them, putting a knife to their neck, then dragging them to the ground with him. He then threatens them with, “''Shh. Not a sound. Not if you want to keep that darling neck of yours.''” Astarion mentions how he saw Tav roaming free on the ship, and believes them to be with the mind flayers. Even if Tav tries to explain they themself were a prisoner on the ship, Astarion will assume they’re lying. When he’s about to question further, his tadpole reacts to Tav’s tadpole.
 * -| ‘Kill it yourself’ or Leave =

With this connection, Astarion will realise that Tav wasn’t part of the mind flayers, and lower his weapon/let the player go (if they didn’t break free) saying, “''And I was about to decorate the ground with your innards. Apologies.''” He then introduces himself, and mentions he was taken from Baldur’s Gate. If Tav brings up they’re also baldurian, Astarion will say how they clearly move in different circles. Astarion will then ask Tav if they know anything about the tadpole, to which they can reveal the ceremorphosis process - the tadpole will turn everyone affected into mind flayers. “''Turn us into - ha. Hahaha! Of course it will turn me into a monster. What else did I expect?''” After this, Tav can get the chance to suggest that they should travel together in hopes of fixing the tadpole problem. He’ll say how he was ready to go alone, but going with a group may work better. With this, Astarion can join as a companion.

If the player character is The Dark Urge, when he joins the narrator will bring up their dark urges about Astarion, “As he joins your side, your mind dances with thoughts of a perfect pretty corpse.” Also immediately talking to Astarion after he joins will have him comment on them, “''You have a manner of irresistible desperation about you. I like it.''”

First Long Rest
On a long rest not long after he joins, speaking to him at camp will have him talk about how camping out like this is new and ‘a little novel’ to him. He’ll say how he’s in ‘no place to rest’ with how much has happened to him that day, and that he’ll stay awake and keep watch. If Tav expresses trust, “''Thank you. I’ll sleep better for that''”, Astarion will approve and wish Tav ‘sweet dreams’. Expressing distrust, “''We’ll both stay up. I’m not ready to turn my back on a stranger”, will have Astarion disapprove and he will joke, “If you want to spend time with me you only have to say so.''”

If the player character is The Dark Urge, while they’re in bed, Tav may think about who they are, why they have these urges, and if they should give in or not to the dark urge. The morning after, Tav can speak to Astarion, where he will notice how they look unwell. 'I have almost no memory' or 'Something awful is brewing within...' =


 * -| 'Overwhelming violent desires fester in my skull' =

If Tav expands on their urges, Astarion believes that they've been 'dealt a vile hand', but thinks that Tav should give into their violent desires as "Nobody should deny themselves of their true nature." If Tav chooses not to expand on their urges as Astarion isn't taking it seriously, Astarion will say "What did you *think* I was going to say? 'Oh come here, I'll kiss you better?"

Stargazing
If the group has managed to find a clue on how they can remove their tadpole, during a long rest, Astarion may be found lounging on his bedroll gazing at the sky. He says “''It’s quite a sight. The stars, I mean. I could take or leave your chin.''”, and reveals how he’s been thinking about what's in store regarding their tadpoles. He then wonders if afterwards, their adventure together will be over.

'It doesn’t have to be' =


 * -| 'Probably' =


 * -| 'Will you miss me?' =

Astarion then compliments Tav, calling them an ally, and mentioning how they survived going through Avernus and the crash of the Nautiloid ship. He adds that he’s not usually impressed by people, but thinks Tav is ‘stronger than he gave them credit for’. If Tav points out that they hardly know each other or say how they thought he didn’t like them, Astarion will say how they ‘have their charms’. If Tav passes an Insight check, the Narrator will say “''The smile on his pretty lips is a touch too composed, a bit too perfect. He may not mean a word he says.''”. If Tav makes a suggestive comment, Astarion will call it a 'delicious thought' before drifting off. From this, If Tav asks what he’s waiting for, he’ll say “The right moment.” No matter how Tav responds to his compliments, after he drifts off his words he will say that he needs to go and clear his head. He tells Tav to ‘sleep tight’, and the conversation ends.

Bite Scene
If the player finds clues within the world towards Astarion’s vampirism, during a long rest, he may attempt to drink blood from Tav while they’re asleep. That night, Tav is struggling to sleep, as according to the Narrator, they’re ‘flitting between dreams and nightmares’. When they wake up, Astarion’s face is close to their neck, with bared teeth. Almost immediately after, Astarion notices Tav’s awakening and moves away from their neck with a “...Shit.” Both Tav and Astarion stand up, and Astarion claims that ‘it’s not what it looks like’. As he tries to explain himself, “''I wasn’t going to hurt you! I just needed - well, blood.''”, Tav realises that Astarion is a vampire. While Tav can choose to steak him here, continuing to converse with him will have him admit he doesn’t normally feed on people (or what he perceives as ‘people’), and instead normally feeds on animals. He claims that he’s ‘too slow’ right now and needs Tav’s blood to be stronger and fight better. Here, Tav’s tadpole and Astarion’s tadpole connect. If Tav asks why Astarion didn’t tell them about him being a vampire, he’ll say it was out of safety and that he wants Tav to trust him. Astarion also reassures Tav that they can still trust him. 'I do' = "I do. I believe you."

''Astarion Approves


 * -| 'You tried to *bite* me' =

If Tav doesn’t allow Astarion to drink their blood, he will understand, and stalk off into the night to find an animal to drink from.

If Tav does allow Astarion to drink their blood, he will approve. Astarion will then suggest to Tav to ‘make ourselves comfortable’. Tav will lie back down on their bedroll, where Astarion leans over their body to bite into their neck. “''It’s like a shard of ice into your neck - a quick, sharp pain that fades into throbbing numbness. Your breath catches, your pulse quickens.''” As Astarion drinks, he doesn’t stop, requiring Tav to either persuade him off or push him off. Success of either will have him come off, but failure of either (or letting him continue) will have him drink more of Tav’s blood. Once again Tav needs to either persuade or use force. Failure this time will have Tav die (Though they can be revived). If Tav gets Astarion to stop drinking, he’ll come off looking noticeably happier. He describes the experience as ‘amazing’ and how his mind feels clear. He’ll explain he’ll still need to feed on something else. Before he leaves, he’ll say "This is a gift, you know. I won't forget it." He then saunters away with the Narrator describing him being stronger and more confident.

This moment gets more context playing as Astarion as an origin character. The equivalent scene starts with Astarion having a nightmare. Alone in the woods, the words of his former Master, Cazador, reach him. They are the rules Astarion were forced to abide by.

“''First, thou shalt not drink the blood of thinking creatures. Second, thou shalt obey me in all things. Third, thou shalt not leave my side unless directed. Four, thou shalt know that thou art mine.''”

Throughout the sequence, Astarion is frightened of Cazador. The Narrator states that despite the fear, Astarion keeps smiling ‘as [he] so often did before’. After Cazador finishes the rules, he appears in front of Astarion. If Astarion tells Cazador he is free, Cazador will berate him, stating “''Free? Lie to yourself, boy, but not to me.''” If Astarion asks for forgiveness, Cazador will call him pathetic, but glad Astarion knows his place. If Astarion tries to attack Cazador, the attack will miss. Cazador’s final words to Astarion in the nightmare are “You are mine, forever.” Astarion then awakens shaken up, with immediate thoughts of getting back to his former master out of fear. After thinking about it, Astarion wonders if being free from harm by sunlight also means freedom from Cazador - free from his rules. He thinks upon the first rule, ‘thou shalt not drink the blood of thinking creatures’, before looking upon his sleeping companions. Astarion can then choose a companion to drink blood from.

The morning after the bite (assuming Tav wasn’t killed), Tav can talk to Astarion about it, and Astarion will ask them how they feel. All responses will have Astarion comment on how Tav should be glad he isn’t a true vampire, as true vampires can transform people into their vampire spawn, like Astarion. If Tav asks if being a vampire spawn is why he can walk in the sunlight, he’ll explain that he should be harmed by the sun but isn’t currently likely due to the tadpole. He also mentions the other activities that he shouldn’t be able to do as a vampire that he can do now before stating, “As for my other quirks - well, we can figure those out in time.” in a joking way. He can also thank Tav for being 'sensible' about him being a vampire. After the other companions join the conversation to express their thoughts on Astarion being a vampire, Tav can say how “We need him, like it or not.” Tav can also express trust: “I trust him, he won’t hurt us.” or adamantly defend him, “If you don’t like it, you can leave.", with the latter two gaining approval from Astarion. After this first bite, Tav is able to allow Astarion to feed on them at night for an in-game buff.

"My sweet, there is nothing I'd like more. I'll come to you tonight, when you're snugly wrapped in your bedroll and we can have a little privacy. And this time I'll make sure I'm quiet - we don't want to disturb your rest. Later on, when we are at rest, I will eat you right up. Just enough to give me strength, and just enough to leave you wishing for more."

- Tav to Astarion the first time they allow him to feed on them at night.

About Cazador
Post-bite, Tav is able to ask about Astarion's past. He will first be annoyed about Tav ‘exhuming the past’, before he briefly talks about his past. He says he was a slave - a vampire spawn kept by the Szarr family. He also says he was never able to resist their commands, but now that he’s taken away from Baldur’s Gate, he states that they will never control him again. Tav can also ask how one becomes a vampire. Astarion explains that a vampire must turn someone into their vampire spawn, followed by the vampire spawn drinking their creator’s blood. He also explains that it’s not what happens in practice, as vampire spawn can be compelled by their creator and therefore need to be allowed to drink their blood. Vampires don’t tend to create other full vampires as it creates competitors.

For Tav to find out about Cazador, within the marsh by the Hag’s hut, a monster hunter named Gandrel can be found. Talking to him with Astarion in the party, Gandrel will first apologise about the smell of his monster deterrent, which Astarion responds with “''You’re a monster hunter? I’m surprised - I thought all Gur were vagrant cut-throats.''” Gandrel then says how he wishes he had half the power ‘settled folk’ think he has, stating he is simply a wanderer and monster hunter. If Tav asks what monster he is hunting, Gandrel will say a vampire spawn named Astarion. He can also say that instead of killing him, his mission is to capture him and return Astarion to Baldur’s Gate. Depending on how Tav pushes the situation from here, the party can either leave Gandral keeping Astarion’s identity safe or fight Gandrel. Astarion can also walk up to him and stab him in the eye to kill him. Either way, Tav can talk to Astarion afterwards about it. Astarion will mention to Tav that he believes Cazador was the one that sent the hunter after him. He says it’s because on the night he died, he was attacked by a group of Gur which left him for dead. Cazador was the one that found him, and offered Astarion unlife as a vampire. Astarion believes Cazador sending the hunter was a message.

Later on, Astarion will tell Tav how they must want to know more about Cazador. Even if Tav says that Astarion doesn’t have to tell them anything he doesn’t want to, he’ll say “I don’t want to say a damned thing, but that won’t do anyone any good.” He starts by explaining that Cazador Szarr is a vampire lord that resides in Baldur’s Gate, and that he’s a ‘monster obsessed with power.’ He also specifies he means power over people, the power to control them completely. He then explains Cazador turned him into a vampire almost 200 years ago, and he became his tormentor. If Tav asks if Cazador is responsible for his death, Astarion will say he was attacked by the ‘thugs’ after they were angry about a ruling he had handed down as magistrate. It was then Cazador who chased them away, and offered Astarion eternal life. He took the offer as the alternative was death. He then says “It was only afterwards I realised just how long ‘eternity’ could be.” If Tav then asks if that meant Astarion was Cazador’s slave, he’ll say vampire spawn are less than slaves - they are puppets for their masters. What their masters say, their bodies do. He also says how Cazador would force his spawns to be tortured or force them to torture themselves. If Tav asks about what Cazador made him do, he will explain that we would go out into the city to find ‘beautiful souls’ to bring back to the palace. “''It was a fun ritual of his - I’d bring them back and he’d ask if I wanted to dine with him. And if I said yes, he’d serve me a dead, putrid rat. Of course if I said no, he’d have me flayed. Hard to say which is worse.''”

'I’m so sorry' =


 * -| 'You’re free now' =


 * -| 'What’s your point?' =

Astarion then tells Tav that they should be cautious moving forward. If Tav tells him they’ll watch his back or that they’ll keep each other safe, Astarion will approve and say “What more could I ask.”

First Romance Conversation
To officially start Astarion’s romance, there are two possible conversations that can activate the romance. Both conversations lead to the same scene afterwards.

Before/After Celebration

This conversation can occur if Astarion has a high enough approval and Tav allowed Astarion to drink from them during the bite scene. The conversation starts with Astarion mentioning he’s been thinking about Tav, and how he’s ‘starting to like the whole package’. He also insists that he can tell Tav is interested in him too, “''I could feel it as I was getting lost in your neck. Your little shakes of excitement. You enjoyed it, didn’t you?''”

'A gentleman/lady never tells.' =


 * -| 'Yes' =


 * -| 'I did it to help' =


 * -| 'No' =

He will then propose that he and Tav take an evening together for themselves in private, where they can ‘indulge’ in each other. If Tav questions his motives, saying it sounds suspicious, he’ll reply, “On my honour, the only thing on my mind is depraved, carnal lust.” If Tav responded to Astarion’s previous question with either denial or saying they did it to help him, they can tell Astarion “You shouldn’t do this just because you feel like you owe me something...", to which Astarion will respond with insisting that it isn't the only reason, and that it’s ‘more of an excuse’. If Tav agrees to his proposal, Astarion promises a ‘night [they'll] never forget’, followed by him ending the conversation by calling Tav ‘Lover’.

A few long rests later, Astarion should come to Tav before they sleep, clarifying that this late-night tryst is for sex, and say how they’ve been waiting long enough. If Tav agrees, he will tell them of a place to meet up, which leads to the next romance scene.

During Celebration

This conversation that can occur to begin Astarion’s romance can happen at the Tiefling/Goblin celebration. Depending on the party, the conversation can differ.

For the Tiefling party, Tav can talk to Astarion, who is drinking by his tent. Astarion will talk about how he ‘never pictured himself a hero’, and now that he’s there, he hates it. After complaining about the wine, he will say, “''I’m just looking for a little more excitement. A little more fun.''”

'What’s your idea of fun?' =

Astarion will then suggest they wait until things quiet down before they seek each other. If Tav agrees to meet Astarion later, he will gain approval, finishing the conversation with “''Indeed you will, my love. Indeed you will.''” If Tav says how they're not sure yet, Astarion will suggest they don’t take too long to decide. Tav can then talk to Astarion later to confirm they want to be with him.


 * -| 'That better not mean…' =

Astarion will then suggest they wait until things quiet down before they seek each other. If Tav agrees to meet Astarion later, he will gain approval, finishing the conversation with “''Indeed you will, my love. Indeed you will.''” If Tav says how they're not sure yet, Astarion will suggest they don’t take too long to decide. Tav can then talk to Astarion later to confirm they want to be with him.


 * -| 'We could have fun?' =

Astarion will then suggest they wait until things quiet down before they seek each other. If Tav agrees to meet Astarion later, he will gain approval, finishing the conversation with “''Indeed you will, my love. Indeed you will.''” If Tav says how they're not sure yet, Astarion will suggest they don’t take too long to decide. Tav can then talk to Astarion later to confirm they want to be with him.


 * -| 'Living in constant peril isn’t enough?' =

Tav can reply to this with “''Maybe. If you say please.” to which Astarion will respond with a playful “What?''”. If Tav says they were just kidding and that they’ll meet him later, Astarion will gain approval, and call Tav ‘cheeky’. Tav can instead try to pass a persuasion check. If the roll succeeds, Astarion will say ‘please’, and Tav can call him a good boy and agree to meet him later. Astarion will gain approval, and call Tav a ‘cheeky little pup’. If Tav says that they're not sure yet, Astarion will suggest they don’t take too long to decide. Tav can then talk to Astarion later to confirm they want to be with him.

If Tav tries to speak with Astarion after they’ve agreed to meet up later, he’ll comment that Tav is eager, but that they’ll have to wait a bit longer. Once the party is over, Tav can mull over how they’ll proceed with their evening. If they confirm they want to seek Astarion, the Narrator will say “''Your heart skips a beat. What treasures will this night bestow.''”, and Tav will wander into the woods to meet Astarion, leading to the next romance scene.

As for the Goblin party, when Tav initiates conversation, Astarion joking welcomes Tav to his ‘humble party’. He then offers Tav a drink, asking what their preferred ‘poison’ is. After they respond, he pours Tav a drink and asks what they’re drinking to, ‘other than a pile of corpses’. After they both drink, Astarion asks Tav what should happen next. The rest of the scene plays out similar to the Tiefling party, just with different dialogue options.

'What do you mean?' =


 * -| 'What would you like to happen?' =


 * -| 'I’d planned to bed you…' =


 * -| 'Between us? Nothing.' =

Tav can then choose to ask Astarion to say please. The situation plays out mostly the same as the Tiefling party, but his “What?” sounds more surprised than playful.

Romance Scene
Tav wanders through the woods until they meet a partially undressed Astarion who begins to speak. “''There you are. I’ve been waiting. Waiting since the moment I set eyes on you. Waiting to have you.''” Tav can either initiate sex immediately, stop this altogether, or converse with him a little longer.

Once again, Tav can either initiate sex or continue to talk.

'And what do you want?' =


 * -| 'Tasted?' =


 * -| 'Try to taste me…' =

If Tav agrees, the two of them will have sex that night. The next scene plays out a little differently depending on whether the goblins raided the druids’ grove or not, but serves the same purpose.

If the goblins haven’t invaded the druids’ grove, the scene starts the morning afterwards with Tav waking up on the forest floor. As they sit up, they see Astarion facing away standing arms open, basking in the morning sun. If Tav says “Not staying for a cuddle?”, he’ll reply by calling them a light sleeper and say how he thought they would be 'exhausted after last night’.

'You weren't *that* good' =


 * -| 'Did you enjoy it?' =


 * -| 'I could always go again' =

"Delicious as you were, I didn’t want to go too far."

- If Astarion bit Tav during sex

Astarion will then suggest they leave. If Tav agrees, Astarion will ask them not to brag about their night together, before adding “Given the noise you made earlier, I’m sure they already know.” Instead of immediately agreeing to leave, Tav can ask about the elaborate scar that covers most of his back. He describes the scar as a ‘poem’ and a ‘gift’ from Cazador, something he bestowed upon all of his vampire spawn. He says Cazador carved the ‘poem’ in a single night, making many revisions as he went. If Tav asks Astarion what the ‘poem’ says, he will say he doesn’t know. If Tav is a Tiefling or they pass an Arcana check, they will recognise the language of the scar - Infernal. If asked why it was written in Infernal, he will be surprised to hear it’s in Infernal, before stating he doesn’t know. If Tav is a Tiefling, they can offer to read what’s written on his back, but he will reject the idea saying it doesn’t matter what it says, it doesn’t change what Cazador did to him. He will once again suggest they leave, and both of them head back towards camp.

If the goblins have invaded the druids' grove, the scene also starts with Tav waking up to an already-awake Astarion. However, it is still nighttime. If Tav asks if he’s leaving already, he will also comment that Tav’s a light sleeper, but his tone is less relaxed. When Astarion comments they should leave, he says they head back so they can rest before sunrise. The rest of the scene plays out the same, but the way Astarion speaks is slightly different, possibly less comfortable. The reason for the slight difference for the scene may be due to Minthara’s scene afterwards, which also occurs during the night post-goblin party.

After Tav and Astarion have slept together, he will have different interaction lines when talked to.

Party Post-Romance
If the romance had already begun when the Tiefling/Goblin party occurs, Tav will get a different unique conversation. When Tav comes to Astarion, he will say “''Here’s my little treat with their cheeks all flushed. You *will* come to my bed tonight, won’t you?''”

'You don’t have to ask twice' =


 * -| 'You can do better' =

If Tav says “So many honeyed words, as usual.”, he’ll reply with “Not half as sweet as when I tasted you.”

Tav can then say how Astarion’s ‘sweet, and sillier’ than they thought, to which Astartion says he could go all night with the flattery. If Tav asks if these lines actually worked on people, he’ll say how it worked on them last time.

If Tav says he’d be lying, he’ll say it’s a beautiful lie. If Tav it would be too soon to say that, he will say how it can be true, ‘if only for tonight’. If Tav mentions how Astarion seems to be having fun with this, he’ll say how it’s hard not to have fun while he’s with them. Astarion then says while it’s fun to throw his ‘favourite lines’ at them, he would rather spend the night with Tav instead.

If they confirm they want to sleep with him that night, Tav will find Astarion later that night, where he’ll say how he’s missed them and that they’re each others until morning. There is no accompanying scene, and instead skips to camp the following morning.

Reading Astarion’s Back
After Tav has seen his scar, they can come across Astarion at camp trying to decipher what’s on his back. As Astarion doesn’t know Infernal, he’s struggling. Once Tav makes themselves known, Astarion will snap at them and ask what they're doing there. If Tav apologises and starts to leave, Astarion will stop them and apologise. He explains what he's trying to do, but that he can’t read his scar by touch itself. If Tav asks if they should get a mirror, he will say that they had better be joking.

'Let me look' =

If Tav says to ‘shut up’ and turn around, he will oblige. If Tav says “All right, if you don’t want answers…”, he will stop Tav from leaving, and turn around.


 * -|Smile and wait =

As Astarion is turned around, Tav gets a better look at his scar. Unless Tav is a Tiefling, they will be unable to read the Infernal on his back. When Astarion asks what Tav can see, if they make a joke on what it says, he will disapprove and tell Tav to tell him the truth. Tav then draws the scar’s design on the dirt below them. When Astarion turns back around to look at their drawing, he is surprised, “What in the hells… What did he do to me?” If Tav asks Astarion what it says, he will say he doesn’t know but recognises it’s not a poem. If Tav suggests if they should ask someone else in their group for help, Astarion will insist they keep this to themselves until they know what it means. If Tav suggests it shouldn’t matter what it says since Astarion’s free, he will get annoyed and say it matters as it’s carved into him - it’s a part of him. “Two centuries carrying this, and I can finally see it.” If he knows his scar’s written in Infernal, he will comment that Cazador was only ‘figuratively hellish’, and that there weren’t any devils hanging around him. Astarion will thank Tav for how they’ve helped him.

If Tav is a Tiefling, they are able to read his scar. When Astarion asks what’s written on his back as he’s turned around, the Narrator will say “''The lines describe oaths and ‘the fires below’, but the language is fragmented and strange. This is just a piece of a larger text.''” Tav can then deduce it may be part of a devil’s pact. After Tav informs Astarion, he will question what Cazador’s up to. He then says “''But if this is part of a contract, it must be powerful. Or valuable. Or both.''” If Tav questions where the rest of the text is, Astarion will say that there were other vampire spawn that were tortured like him, and that they may carry the rest. He then wonders what a devil could offer a vampire like Cazador, who already held a lot of power.

Meeting Raphael at the Last Light Inn
When Tav and the party make it to the Last Light Inn, they can find Raphael playing lanceboard with Mol. After the game’s completion and the conversation about Mol, Raphael will turn his attention towards Astarion if he’s in the party, as he can sense there’s something Astarion wants to ask him. Astarion will agree and say he has a proposal for the devil. He explains that someone long ago carved runes into his back, and that he wants to know what they mean. If Astarion knows it’s Infernal, he’ll specify that they’re Infernal runes and that he wants to know what the full contract says. If Tav says to Raphael not to play games and help Astarion, or that they shouldn’t work with Raphael, Raphael will call Tav inpatient. Raphael will tell Astarion “''It’s something very important to your master. But is it a love letter, a warning, or a deed of ownership? I could give you all the gory details. But, of course, you’ll have to do something for me first. Let me think about it and get back to you.''” Astarion well get annoyed, and ask when he’ll get back to him. Raphael responds saying that he’s ‘motivated’ to help Astarion, and his scar might tell an exquisite story. He also says he’ll see Astarion soon.

The Dark Urge Takes Over
If the player character is the Dark Urge and they have started to traverse the Shadow-Cursed Lands, during their rest, Tav will think about their butler, Sceleritas Fel. Almost immediately after, Sceleritas Fel appears over Tav’s bedroll in person. If Tav asks if he can read their thoughts, he will deny, saying Tav’s thoughts are all the same anyways. He then goes on to say that Tav’s Dark Urges won’t go away until they are sated and that he has bought Tav a ‘powerful tithe’. But before Tav can claim it, they must do something ‘unspeakable’ first. Even if Tav tries to protest, Sceleritas Fel will explain that they must kill Isobel - the Selunite Cleric that keeps the Last Light Inn safe from the shadow curse. If she dies, the protection over the inn would come down, essentially killing almost everyone inside. Sceleritas Fel then leaves, his parting words being, “Be true to yourself.”

If the Dark Urge does not kill Isobel, during a long rest, Tav will struggle to sleep. As they sit up, they look to their sleeping companions. As Tav stands up, they walk towards Astarion. Suddenly the voice of their butler can be heard, and seen standing above Astarion, “''He is so afraid. So, so afraid. Of everyone, besides *you*, who he ought to fear most. You could do so much better, Master.''”

'Get away!' =


 * -| 'What do you want!?' =


 * -| 'Cease this insubordination' =


 * -| Ready yourself to attack =

Sceleritas Fel then lightly hops over Astarion as he’s still in trance. He then states that this night, Tav’s repressed Urge will kill again. When Tav falls back asleep, they will kill their ‘favourite person’ - Astarion. Tav trying to deceive or outsmart him doesn’t work, as according to him, not killing Isobel has made the Urge insatiable. Sceleritas Fel then says, “''You like him for more than his looks, but he will never really believe that. Why not make him a pretty corpse?''”

'I haven’t told him how I feel…' =


 * -| 'We are indomitable' =


 * -| 'You’ve been watching?' =


 * -| 'Perhaps I’ll be stronger…' =

Sceleritas Fel says how there was 'much disappointment’ in Tav’s failure to kill Isobel, but if they kill Astarion tonight, the ‘powerful tithe’ may still be theirs. He adds that he does not doubt that Tav will act with the ‘decorum befitting’ of their rank. Sceleritas Fel then leaves, wishing Tav a good night. Once the butler is gone, Tav goes to kneel in front of Astarion. Tav can choose to either go back to sleep or kill him here and now; both choices lead to Astarion’s death. Tav can instead choose to wake Astarion up, but as their hands reach towards his body, they long to close around his throat. Tav can choose to surrender to the Urge, or make a Wisdom saving throw to resist the Urge. If succeeded, Tav will be able to wake up Astarion. Astarion sits up and says, “''Well, hello. Looking for a cuddle? Although you don’t look entirely… yourself. What’s going on in that head of yours?''” Tav tries to explain that he’s in danger, but afterwards starts to feel ill from the Urge. If Tav says they will kill him when they fall asleep due to their Urge, he’ll reply, “I’d rather be the only dark power inside your body, if it’s all the same to you.” If Tav says they will kill the person they care about most, he’ll call that flattering and disturbing. Astarion then says that Tav should have talked to him before things got ‘murderously bad’ as they’re ‘technically in this together’. The illness then gets worse, and Tav passes out. When they wake up, they’re lying on the ground with their hands tied behind their back. The Narrator says that Tav is not themselves, and all control is gone. As the Urge is struggling against the rope, Astarion sits close, alert but calm, saying that this ‘thing’ won’t have them. The Urge then tries to threaten or harm him, but he responds by saying, “''Easy now, darling. You’ve got this. And I’ve got you.''” As the Urge continues to struggle, he says that dawn is close.

Morning comes, and Tav comes to their senses. Astarion frees Tav from the bindings, and sits down, saying that need to have a talk.

Confess everything =


 * -| Blame the Butler =


 * -| Blame your past =


 * -| Sob =

If Tav says that Astarion’s allowed to hate them for this, he says that he doesn’t hate them, as this isn’t them. He says that whatever it is Tav is dealing with, they can get through it, and that he’ll be there too. When Tav next talks to Astarion after the night, he will jokingly thank Tav for not killing him, then asks if they're alright.

'I’m worried about you' =


 * -| 'Do you believe I can get better?' =


 * -| 'We’re safe for now' =


 * -| 'This only happened…' =

If Tav does kill Isobel, the moment of Tav almost killing their lover doesn’t appear. Instead, Sceleritas Fel will come to Tav to give them their prize — the ability for Tav to turn into a Slayer. If Astarion knows about the Slayer form, he will comment, “''The beast you turn into... as charming as it is... Just make sure those claws don’t come anywhere near me.''”

Raphael’s Deal
As Tav and the group make their way to the Thorm Mausoleum, Raphael is waiting outside to meet them. If Tav hears him out, Raphael will mention a devil inside the mausoleum that Tav should kill without question. If Astarion is in the party, Raphael will speak to him and say that he hasn’t forgotten about the request. Raphael offers that if he kills the devil inside, it will be payment enough that he will agree to Astarion’s request. Afterwards, Raphael leaves. Talking to Astarion will have him say that he’ll trust a devil over a vampire and that he's fine with taking the deal.

Once Yurgir is killed, Raphael will come to the campsite to fulfil his end of the deal. Speaking to Astarion and Tav, Raphael explains that the scar is one part of a contract between the archdevil Mephistopheles and Cazador. The contract allows Cazador knowledge of an infernal ritual that Raphael describes as 'so vile it has never been performed'—the  Rite of Profane Ascension. Completion of the ritual allows the Vampire Ascendent to gain large amounts of power by enhancing their vampiric abilities while returning aspects of the living to them, such as the ability to be in sunlight. The price of this ritual requires the sacrifice of a multitude of souls, including that of his vampire spawn. Raphael then says that Astarion is the only missing part of this ritual, as his scars bind him to the contract. Raphael then departs, leaving Tav and Astarion. Lost in thought, Astarion simply says “Hmm…” before saying that ultimately he will have to take the fight to Cazador and that he needs Tav’s help. If Tav agrees to help, Astarion will approve, and say “Thank you.” If Tav shows reluctance, Astarion will disapprove, and say that if Tav won’t do it for him, they should do it for the souls Cazador will sacrifice for the ritual. If Tav agrees then, Astarion will give thanks, while once again refusing to help will leave Astarion angry.

Araj in Moonrise Towers
Within Moonrise Towers is a merchant named Araj Oblodra. When spoken to, she will ask if she can take some of Tav’s blood. She explains that she works with blood and the potions that can be made from it, and that the potion that can be made from Tav’s blood will be unknown until it is made. If Tav accepts, she will take some of their blood and give them a potion with effects depending on Tav’s race. Once the potion is made, Araj’s attention falls to Astarion. She recognises him as a vampire, and he responds (while trying to remain undercover) “''Don’t worry, we’re all friends under the Absolute. I won’t bite” She replies, “Oh I’d prefer if you did.''” before turning to Tav and asking if he ‘belongs to them’.

'He’s his own person' =

Astarion Approves


 * -| 'We travel together' =


 * -| 'He does as I tell him' =

Astarion Disapproves


 * -| 'Yes. All mine' =

Araj then explains that she’s always dreamed of being bit by a vampire and that she’s willing to give for free a potion of ‘legendary power’ if Astartion bites her. She also makes it clear that the potion isn’t for sale, and she’ll only give it for being bitten. Astarion responds with “I will have to decline.” When Araj says that he’s squandering the opportunity, he replies angrily that he gave his answer. Araj then turns to Tav, asking them to ‘talk some sense’ into Astarion. Tav can immediately reject, saying “He said no. There’s nothing more to discuss.”. If so, Astarion will approve, say thank you to Tav, and that he appreciates that. Araj will be annoyed but won’t push further. If Tav says they’re surprised Astarion isn’t choosing to bite her or says he should just bite her for the potion, Astarion will ask if Araj can excuse them for a bit and tells Tav that something smells wrong with her blood. He can tell it won’t kill him, but it will be unpleasant. If Tav says Astarion shouldn't do anything he doesn’t want to, he will approve and once again reject Araj’s offer. Tav can also push Astarion into drinking her blood, but doing so may make Astarion break up with Tav later on for pushing his boundaries.

Astarion’s Confession
During Act 2, Tav and Astarion are able to deepen their romantic relationship. For this to happen, Tav and Astarion must have one of two possible conversations, similar to how the romance starts in Act 1.

Post-Araj

If Astarion and Tav have yet to deepen their relationship, after talking with Araj Oblodra with Astarion, he will want to talk with Tav at camp. Assuming Tav didn’t force Astarion to drink Araj’s blood, Astarion will begin by thanking Tav for what they said in front of her. He continues:

"I spent two hundred years using my body to lure pretty things back for my Master. What I wanted, how I felt about what I was doing, it never mattered. You could have asked me to do the same - to throw myself at her, what I wanted be damned. But you didn’t. And I’m grateful."

He can also admit that having the ability to choose feels daunting or a little intimidating. He adds, “''It would have been so easy to bite her. To just go along with what I was being told to do. A moment of disgust to force myself through. And then I could have carried on, just like before.''” If Tav asks why Astarion would sleep with them, he admits that he wanted someone on his side for protection reasons. But he also admits that eventually he started to have genuine feelings for them, saying it was a ‘complication he didn’t see coming.’ Otherwise, Astarion will say that his only purpose was to seduce people and that his instincts tell him nothing’s changed—he's still just a means to an end. He says that Tav made him see that being away from Cazador didn’t stop him from thinking like he was still his slave. He adds, “''But I’m more than that. More than a thing to be used.''”

Direct Confession

What causes this conversation to occur is less known - possibly based on high approval. Astarion comes to Tav and nervously asks if they can talk. He confesses:

"Look, I had a plan. A nice, simple plan - seduce you, sleep with you, manipulate your feelings so you'd never turn on me. It was easy - instinctive. Habits from two hundred years of charming people kicked in. All you had to do was fall for it. And all I had to do was not fall for you...which is where my nice, simple plan fell apart. You - … you’re incredible. You deserve something real. I want us to be something real."

If Tav questions if their nights together meant anything, he’ll say that they did, and that was part of the ‘problem’. If Tav expresses their own desire to have something real with him, Astarion says that after faking affections for 200 years, he doesn’t know what ‘real’ looks like anymore. Astarion then explains that intimacy was something he performed to lure people in for Cazador, and while being with Tav feels different, it can still bring up the feelings of ‘disgust’ and ‘loathing’. “''I don’t know how else to be with someone. No matter how much I’d like to.''”

Progressing the Relationship

Once Astarion has expressed his feelings, Tav can say that they care about Astarion. When he asks “really?” Tav can show their affections multiple ways.

Open your mind =

Tav begins to move towards Astarion. As they get close, Astarion is confused and doesn’t get what Tav’s doing. Once Tav puts their arms around him, his expression softens. Slowly, he wraps his own arms around Tav, giving into the hug more. Tav then pulls away, and Astarion says “You… you are full of surprises, aren’t you?”
 * -| Hug him =


 * -| 'You’re worth a great deal to me' =


 * -| 'We can be together without sex' =


 * -| 'What do *you* want?' =

Astarion bashfully states how he has no idea what they’re doing or what comes next. He then takes Tav’s hand in his own, and says, “''But I know that this? This is nice.''” As the conversation ends, Tav and Astarion’s relationship will no longer be considered casual. If Tav is also romancing another character, they will have to choose who they want to be with. When Tav initiates conversation with him, he will have new interaction lines when talked to.

Tav can also talk to Astarion about their relationship. If they ask “What are we, to you?”, he replies, ''“I don’t know. But isn’t it nice? Not to know. You’re not a victim. Not a target. Not just one night it’s better to forget. But then… *whatever in the world* could you be?''” Tav can also ask Astarion for a kiss if he would like to. Even if Tav doesn’t say that they don’t need to sleep together, other dialogue shows that at this point in their relationship, Tav and Astarion aren’t engaging in a sexual relationship.

Alternative Outcomes

Friendship = Instead of pursuing a romantic relationship, Tav can also choose to proceed with Astarion as friends, saying, “Maybe what you really need is a friend, not a lover.” Astarion will still approve and show genuine happiness as the prospect, saying that while he’s had many lovers, he’s never had a real friend before. He still takes Tav hand to say this.

When Astarion is expressing his feelings, Tav can opt to coerce him into having sex with them. If Tav says that they were hoping Astarion would ‘throw himself’ at them as a reward for not making him bite Araj, he will say that he’s not sure if he should and that he doesn’t want Tav to see him in terms of sex. If Tav pushes further, then Astarion will give in, saying sadly that he supposes it did feel different with them, and if that is what they want, ‘he will provide’. The following morning, after they sleep together, Astarion will sit up, looking upset. As Tav wakes up, he says to them that this is all a game to them, and what he says or wants doesn’t matter unless Tav gets what they want. No matter how Tav responds, Astarion will either admit he didn’t know how to say no or that last night was miserable for him. He says that for as long as he can remember, he’s been used and controlled for someone else's pleasure, and that whatever relationship he and Tav had, it’s over. Astarion then leaves Tav alone.
 * -| Coercion for Sex =

Dryad’s Love Test
Within the Circus of the Last Days in Rivington, there is a Dryad called Zethino. Upon meeting her, she will comment that Tav is in love and will offer a test of love. If Tav asks Astarion to participate, he will agree, and Zethino will take them both to an unknown location by a waterfall. Tav and Astarion are separated, with one on each side of the waterfall. Between them is a log they can walk on. Zethino will ask how well the pair know each other and asks Tav a few questions.

"Astarion: a tumultuous past hides behind a mirthful grin. The heart is fraught, so let us begin with the joyous. When is he happiest?"

'He’s never been happy' =

Astarion Disapproves | Incorrect Answer


 * -| 'When he’s elbow-deep in gore' =

Astarion Approves | Correct Answer


 * -| 'He’s happy now!' =

Astarion Disapproves | Incorrect Answer

"Many things delight the heart, but only one makes it sing. Tell me, what does he desire more than anything?"

'Me' =

Astarion Approves | Incorrect Answer


 * -| 'Freedom' =

Astarion Disapproves | Correct Answer


 * -| 'Revenge' =

Astarion Approves | Correct Answer


 * -| 'A nice, tasty rat' =

Astarion Disapproves | Incorrect Answer

"Our touch has been that of sunlight, but now we must ask the deep. The difficult. Fear sits in the soul of all - to tame it, we must *name* it. Astarion - What is his deepest fear?"

'Sharp wooden sticks' =

Astarion Disapproves | Incorrect Answer


 * -| 'Breaking a nail' =

Astarion Approves | Correct Answer


 * -| 'Forever feeling like a slave' =

Astarion Disapproves | Correct Answer


 * -| 'Most things fear him' =

Astarion Approves | Incorrect Answer

Based on how Astarion responds, he seems to appreciate the answers that keep up his façade even if they're not the full truth, as well as any answer he finds funny. He disapproves if Tav says anything that outs his vulnerabilities, even if it’s the truth, as the dryad is a stranger. He also dislikes any answer that he doesn’t find amusing.

If Tav gets every answer wrong, he will comment, “''Well, that was a disaster. Can we call time on this farce? Please?''” and leaves before finishing properly. If Tav got at least one correct, they and Astarion meet at the centre of the log, and he comments on how well Tav did.

"Well… you were right every time. I almost wish you hadn’t been, but you do know me…"

- Every question answered correctly.

"I have to say, you know me better than I thought. I’ll have to be more mysterious in future."

- At least one correct answer.

Zethino will then state how strong their love is between each other depending how well Tav did during the test. There’s also the chance that Zethino is actually a disguised Orin, and she can taunt Tav based on how well they know Astarion.

Dark Urge Remembers Past
Early on in Act 3, if the player character is the Dark Urge, they can remember some of their forgotten past through a vision or dream. They remember that they are Bhaalspawn - the mortal children of Bhaal. They remember that they were once Bhaal’s chosen and spent many years in worship of him—that they killed many in His name.

When next they talk, Astartion will tell Tav he can see the Urges are calling on them again and that he hasn’t seen them sleep for a while. Tav can reveal that they are Bhaalspawn, and he responds, saying it makes sense of the night Tav tried to kill him (if that occurred). He also comments that probably more parents scare children with stories of Bhaalspawn than vampires. He then asks Tav, “''So… how are you feeling? Keen to reconnect with your family? Or ready to throw yourself into an oubliette?''” If Tav says they’ve suspected all along, he says that he was alive during the time Bhaalspawn first arose, but he was kept away since it was the early times of him being a spawn. If Tav says that they’re afraid, Astarion will say he didn’t realise how alike they were. He compares his relationship with Cazador with Tav’s relationship with Bhaal, and tells them not to give in to Bhaal’s control—to fight back.

The next time Tav talks to Astarion, he will call them “Precious little Bhaal-babe!” as a one-time thing.

Meeting Astarion's 'Siblings'
Flophouse

If Tav with Astarion in the party enter Fraygo's Flophouse, they can find two of Astarion’s vampire spawn siblings, Petras and Dalyria. The two will be talking about Cazador’s ‘Black Mass’, with Dalyria wanting to return to the palace quickly and Petras wanting to have someone to feed on after the ritual's completion, not knowing the ritual will kill him in the process. Astarion interjects, calling Petras stupid for believing Cazador’s word. Petras says that he assumes Astarion’s returned to Baldur’s Gate to partake in the ritual so he too can be more powerful. Astarion once again calls Petras an idiot, grabs him by the collar, and forces his head by the window where sunlight shines through. As Dalyria begs Astarion to stop, he demands Petras give him information on Cazador’s whereabouts. Tav can either go along, say nothing, or persuade Astarion to stop. If Tav is successful in the persuasion, Astarion shoves Petras back and tells him he owes his life to ‘my friend’. Dalyria explains that there’s a hidden chapel underneath Cazador’s palace that was hidden away from all his spawn, and that is where the ritual will take place. Astarion tells his siblings to leave, and after they do, he says they’re not a threat as they’re only doing Cazador’s bidding. He also says he pities them. Astarion says how their fates are already set, and how he wonders if their lives will be used for Cazador or for himself. “''Seven sigils on seven spawn, and Cazador has the other six. We have to face him and take that power for ourselves.''”

'Are you ready to sacrifice them?' =


 * -| 'Why not stay away?' =


 * -| 'For yourself, you mean' =


 * -| 'Sometimes you scare me' =


 * -| 'Let’s do it' =

Astarion then suggests they leave. The following choices do not occur if Tav says they’re already on board with ascending him.

'I want you to be happy' =


 * -| 'What if it’s a trap?' =


 * -| 'I’m not sure' =

Astarion says that now that they know where Cazador is, they can go to him. He then suggests they leave.

Camp Attack

With a couple of long rests without completing Astarion's personal questline, Tav can wake up to two more of Astarion's siblings - Leon and Aurelia - coming to the party’s campsite to try and capture him. When Aurelia says Astarion is needed for the ritual, he will try and convince his siblings that he should be the one to become the Vampire Ascendent, saying he will kill Cazador. He also tries to deceive them into still participating in the ritual, saying that they will all live again, despite him knowing otherwise.

'Have you no heart, Astarion?' = Persuasion Roll Passes

Tav then tells Leon and Aurelia that the ritual requires their deaths. Aurelia will say that Cazador controls his spawn, so he would have no reason to lie to them, so why give them hope? Leon then says because it would be more cruel, releasing that Tav isn’t lying. Leon then tries to talk out a plan with Tav, but Cazador’s control takes over them. Aurelia tries to get Astarion to get out of there before they can’t disobey, but fails, and combat takes place.

Persuasion Roll Fails

Leon then interrupts, saying enough talking. He then calls Astarion weak, saying they’ll never follow weak. Aurelia says that this is their chance of freedom, and that Astarion will not ruin it. Leon and Aurelia then force combat against the camp.

"He’s free of Cazador’s command. You should follow him. He will save you."
 * -| 'You should follow him' =

Astarion Approves

Deception Roll Passes

Leon then sees that Astarion does seem stronger than before or, if Astarion met his other siblings in the flophouse, will see that Petras was correct that Astarion was stronger now. Aurelia says that maybe they can get back at Cazador with Astarion completing the ritual, but after she speaks, Cazador’s control takes over them. Aurelia tries to get Astarion to get out of there before they can’t disobey, but fails, and combat takes place.

Deception Roll Fails Leon says that Astarion has only ever wanted to save himself and calls Astarion weak, saying they’ll never follow weak. Aurelia says that this is their chance of freedom, and that Astarion will not ruin it. Leon and Aurelia then force combat against the camp.

Leon says enough talking. He then calls Astarion weak, saying they’ll never follow weak. Aurelia says that this is their chance of freedom, and that Astarion will not ruin it. Leon and Aurelia then force combat against the camp.
 * -| Say nothing =

After combat, ''Astarion will say “What a mess. Well, at least you’ve met my family now.''”

If Tav says they can’t believe Astarion would lie to their siblings about the ritual, he replies, saying that there’s only six of them and that they are vampire spawn. If Tav asks, “You don’t have sympathy for others sharing your plight?” Astarion says how no one ever looked out for him. He adds, ''“You’re the only one. Other people don’t have a heart like you. You’re you. No one is like that.” If Tav agrees, saying that they are'' special after all, Astarion will say he’s glad they know. If Tav tries to reassure him that there are plenty of kind people in the world, he tells Tav not to sell themselves short. Astarion insists that he’s doing this ritual for both of them, to keep them both safe forever. If Tav instead says, “Don’t act haughty, you’re only one tadpole away from being one of them.” or “In turn, why does your life matter?”, he will disapprove. He replies, saying everything has changed, and what matters now is that he can now stand up to Cazador.

If Tav says that if they killed any of the spawn, Cazador wouldn’t be able to complete the ritual, Astarion says that Cazador wouldn’t throw away his plan so easily and that his siblings were taken back just in time. He says Cazador will be furious if he is able to get to the crypt to stop him. He then says, “''For what it’s worth, thank you. No matter what happens down there, you helped me stand up against him.''”

If Leon mentioned Astarion being weak, Tav can ask Astarion what he meant by that. He tells Tav a story of his early days as a spawn. On a night he was to bring someone to Cazador, he describes a ‘darling boy’ whom he couldn’t bring himself to take to Cazador. When Cazador found out, he sealed Astarion in a tomb for an entire year with no blood. “''A year of silence. Months of scratching my hands raw, trying to carve my way out. More months of not moving at all. Months wishing only for death. So don’t you ever judge me for doing what Cazador ordered.”'' If Tav tells Astarion they’re sorry or he should move forward with revenge, he says that not even Cazador’s death can make up for what he did, but stealing his life’s work might be something. If Tav says Cazador 'truly broke’ him, Astarion will disapprove, and say he didn’t break him as he’s still here and willing to fight.

Moments

 * In Act 1, in a conversation after Astarion has fed on Tav, he will shyly tell Tav "You were my first." The context is that Tav was the first 'thinking creature' he's ever drunk from, but saying to someone that they were their 'first' can also imply being someone's first sexual experience.


 * In Act 2, The Dark Urge can find a broken pod that they find familiar. If they ask Astarion to smell the blood, he says "Oh yes, that's yours all right. Even stale, I'd recognise that bouquet anywhere."


 * In Act 3 when talking to Captain Grizzly, Tav can say they think of themselves as a 'leaking blood-bag'. Astarion then adds that they're his leaking blood-bag. Grizzly then says that she might puke.


 * In Act 3 after his personal quest if remains a vampire spawn, Astarion will say he and Tav are equals. This is important as Tav can find the 'rules of vampiric existence' from Vellioth's memories in Cazador's palace, with the first rule being 'allow none to be your equal'. The Dark Urge can also be told by Sceleritas Fel they are wrong to consider another their equal.

Quotes
"This is a gift, you know. I won't forget it."

- Astarion to Tav after being allowed to drink their blood.

"This is a gift, you know. Thank you - I won't forget it."

- Astarion to Tav after his personal questline (Spawn Ending).

"Look, I had a plan. A nice, simple plan - seduce you, sleep with you, manipulate your feelings so you'd never turn on me. All you had to do was fall for it. And all I had to do was not fall for you...which is where my nice, simple plan fell apart"

- Astarion admitting he's been manipulating Tav, as well as admitting he's fallen for them.

"He is so afraid. So, so afraid. Of everyone, besides *you*, who he ought to fear most."

- Sceleritas Fel to Tav about Astarion (Dark Urge).

Fanon
Astarion is one of the most popular romance options in Baldur's Gate 3, and like the other romance options within the game, can be romanced by a character of any gender or race.

On AO3, Astarion/Tav is the most written ship in the Baldur's Gate (Video Games) tag.

Fandom

 * FAN FICTION